Sunday, December 6, 2015

Tips on How to Manage Holiday Stress and Intimacy

‘Tis the season to be jolly, but the fact is the holidays bring more stress into our lives.

A Canadian study showed that men take stress harder than women. The research indicates that women fare better in the face of stress. In one study of more than 24,000 adults, men who had high demand and low control in their jobs or had job insecurity were more likely to have had major depression.

A survey, conducted by life insurance company Aviva USA and the Mayo Clinic, shows that finances are the biggest source of stress for men - 62 percent.

Overall, the study shows that men’s five biggest stressors are:

1. Finances
2. Family and Relationships
3. Job Stability
4. Fast Pace of Life
5. Health

During the holidays, numbers 1, 2 and 4 are all arguably heightened. Simon Rego of the Montfiore Center/Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York says that gender differences regarding the effects of stress manifest themselves in other negative ways. “Men under stress are more likely than women to report having been diagnosed with high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, and heart disease or heart attack,” he says.

Dr. Michael Trombley, Medical Director of the Physicians ED Centers (www.physiciansed.com) says each of those health risks effect one more key element of a man’s life which is actually a stress reducer - sex.

“Stress is one of the primary causes of bedroom performance issues and is a leading factor in the increase of that compounds stress” explains Trombley, who specializes in men’s heath.

Dr. Trombley has some stress relieving tips that men usually don’t think about, that could help them during the holidays and in the bedroom:

1. Laugh more – take advantage of the holiday time around friends and family to really enjoy that company that you don’t have working your normal 70 hour weeks.

2. Confidently assert yourself. Face it, some of those family members are going to push your buttons over how to carve the Tukey or how to hang the decorations in your own house. Don’t let that drag one. If you assert yourself early, it cuts off that behavior and give you a boost of confidence we can all use.

3. Yoga – this might be the time to start your New Year’s resolution early. Yoga really helps you focus on yourself, your needs and how to manage when your blood boils waiting five hours in a line at a toy store to pick-up your child’s holiday gift.

4. Practice Letting Go - making a conscious choice not to become angry or upset. Do not allow yourself to waste thought and energy where it isn't deserved. Effective anger management is a tried-and-true stress reducer.

5. Speaker Slower. This one seems silly but connects with the stress studies that include fast-paced lifestyles. Slow your speech helps you better handle those stressful moments.

Trombley adds there are some basics we all know and should certainly not forget when it comes to stress relief: Sleep well, eat right, stay hydrated and exercise.

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